How I Stopped Being Dependent on Makeup and Found Real Confidence
My top 3 tips for when you want to stop being dependent on wearing makeup.
I used to be so insecure about what I looked like without makeup that I wouldn’t even go to the grocery store without it.
Here’s the truth: I used to feel like I had to wear makeup. Every single day. Not because I loved it, but because I was scared of how I looked without it.
And maybe you can relate to that. Maybe you feel like your real face isn’t good enough. Maybe you worry people will think less of you or judge you if you don’t wear makeup.
That was me.
Today, I want to share the 3 things that helped me feel confident while I stopped being dependent on makeup.
1. Smile as the last thing you do in the mirror
It can be so easy to get frustrated while looking in the mirror.
If you are not happy with the way you look, negative thoughts are sure to come.
Something that I learned as a dog trainer (I used to work as a dog trainer) is that it is important that the last thing you do with the dog is positive/easy. It must feel like you ended on a win.
That translates into beauty as well.
I have found that even a small act like smiling, as the last thing you do in the mirror, has a big impact on how you view yourself.
I highly recommend this habit. Over time, it will become automatic and will change how you subconsciously think about yourself.
2. Put a Bible Verse/Affirming Saying on Your Mirror
This is a more common one.
Whether you realize it or not, words have power. The question is, what words are you going to surround yourself with? What words are you saying to yourself on a daily basis?
If they are not the most positive, don’t worry. Just take one baby step towards changing the way you think about yourself by putting a Bible verse or an affirming saying on your mirror.
That way, when you are tempted to say or think something negative about yourself, you have something right there to encourage you not to.
3. Remember That No One is Looking at Your Skin Like You Are
It’s not easy to go makeup-free at first. I had to push through that uncomfortable phase where it seemed like everyone was looking at me and judging me.
I used to have bad acne (before tallow helped me heal it). Recently, I was having a conversation with my cousin about skin issues, and when I mentioned how much better my acne had gotten, she said, “But you’ve always had clear skin.” (That’s not true.)
I was shocked, but it helped me to realize that nobody is looking at your skin the same way you are.
When you stop wearing makeup, you will not get a perfected version of you—just the real thing.
And that is more than enough.
Disclaimer
I want to make it clear that makeup is not bad. Being dependent on it is.
I wear makeup once in a while for fun and really enjoy it.
But if you feel like you are “lacking” without makeup, then that is when it can steal your joy and make you insecure.
You don’t have to hide.
God Bless,
Serena
P.S. If you're ready to try a new approach, I'd love for you to start with the balm that helped heal my skin as I stepped into it: